View Show Notes & Blog Page for This EpisodeJoin Dr. Elisha Goldstein’s Private Therapeutic Coaching ProgramSign Up for Elisha’s Email Newsletter & Get the Emotional Health GuideIn this episode of The Emotional Longevity Podcast, Dr. Elisha Goldstein sits down with world-renowned couples therapist and author Dr. Stan Tatkin, creator of the PACT model and author of Wired for Love and In Each Other’s Care.Stan reveals how our nervous systems are built for co-regulation, not independence, and why traditional ideas of “self-care” in relationships often fail. Instead, couples need a shared purpose, secure agreements, and a willingness to prioritize the relationship—especially under stress.If you’ve ever felt stuck in recurring arguments, emotional distance, or frustration around connection—this conversation is a game-changer.In this episode, we cover:Why love isn’t enough for long-term connectionThe neurobiology of attachment and co-regulationWhat makes relationships spiral into self-protectionWhy “secure functioning” couples thrive—and how to become oneThe exact moment we lose empathy (and how to get it back)How to prepare for conflict before it happensThe one agreement every couple needsWhy individual healing alone won’t save your relationshipIf your relationship matters to you—listen to this twice.Take notes. Reflect. And start shifting from “me vs. you” to us vs. the problem.Connect with Stan Tatkin:Website & TrainingsBooks: Wired for Love (2nd Edition) In Each Other’s Care Connect with Elisha:FacebookTwitterInstagramSubscribe to Emotional Longevity:Apple PodcastsSpotifyYouTubeProduced by Peoples Media Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.