IFS: The Therapy Method Helping Men Finally Find Inner Peace-James J Stamatelos-Triangle Theory #049
November 12, 2025
In this episode of Triangle Theory, hosts Konrad and Rupert sit down with James Joseph Stamatelos, a therapist and men’s work facilitator, to unpack his powerful framework known as The Triangle Theory.
James explains how many of us live divided between three inner forces, the self we perform, the self we hide, and the self we long to be. By recognising and reconciling these parts, we open the door to greater self-compassion and emotional integration.
This conversation explores the intersection of IFS therapy, men’s emotional development, and embodied self-awareness, offering practical insight into how to notice your internal patterns in real time. James shares how this work helps men move from self-judgment to self-relationship, and how genuine connection begins within.
Konrad and Rupert bring a grounded, curious energy to the dialogue, connecting James’ therapeutic insights to real-life experiences of growth, honesty, and inner alignment. It’s a rich conversation for anyone on the path of self-understanding and transformation.
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In this episode, we discussed:
00:00 - Intro
10:10 - Understanding Parts Work in IFS Therapy
19:56 - Transforming Insecurities into Self-Confidence
29:56 - The Role of Men in Emotional Expression
36:44 - Navigating Emotional Extremes
39:48 - The Practice of Honesty with Emotions
41:13 - Curiosity as a Tool for Self-Discovery
43:51 - Building a Healthy Relationship with Self
47:35 - Authenticity and Self-Energy
50:52 - Understanding and Healing Parts
54:49 - Success vs. Authenticity
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https://www.jamesjstamatelos.com
📌If this episode resonated with you, subscribe to the Triangle Theory newsletter for more insights on self-awareness, psychology, and human growth:
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In this episode, we discussed:
00:00 - Intro
10:10 - Understanding Parts Work in IFS Therapy
19:56 - Transforming Insecurities into Self-Confidence
29:56 - The Role of Men in Emotional Expression
36:44 - Navigating Emotional Extremes
39:48 - The Practice of Honesty with Emotions
41:13 - Curiosity as a Tool for Self-Discovery
43:51 - Building a Healthy Relationship with Self
47:35 - Authenticity and Self-Energy
50:52 - Understanding and Healing Parts
54:49 - Success vs. Authenticity
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