How Our Society Failing Young Men Today - Dr. Brendan Kwiatowski - Hartman - Triangle Theory #040
July 9, 2025
Brendan Kwiatkowski is a researcher, educator, and founder of ReMasculine. He focuses on men’s mental health, emotional literacy, and redefining masculinity in modern society. His work combines psychology, education, and social research to help boys and men live more authentic, emotionally connected lives.
We explore:
- Why young men feel lost in today’s world
- How society is failing boys from childhood to adulthood
- The hidden emotional struggles men face but never talk about
- The truth about Andrew Tate and red pill culture
- How to redefine masculinity for a healthier future
- Why emotional literacy is key to men’s mental health
If you’ve ever questioned what it means to be a man today or why so many men feel disconnected, this conversation will open your eyes.
00:00 - Intro
03:13 - The Impact of Early Experiences on Emotional Development
06:37 - Understanding Emotional Fluency and Literacy
09:13 - The Age of Emotional Disconnect in Boys
12:32 - Addressing Emotional Suppression in Young Boys
15:25 - The Role of Masculinity in Emotional Expression
18:25 - Connecting with Teenage Boys
21:15 - The Importance of Male Role Models
24:19 - Emotional Intelligence Across Genders
27:16 - The Complexity of Emotional Intelligence
30:58 - Healthy Masculinity and Emotional Presence
33:49 - Loneliness and Peer Relationships in Boys
36:42 - The Influence of Online Communities
39:55 - The Appeal of Controversial Figures like Andrew Tate
50:56 - The Influence of Masculinity in Modern Society
54:37 - Holistic Development: The Pillars of Wellbeing
56:10 - Understanding Incel Culture and Its Implications
01:00:56 - Outdated Expectations of Masculinity
01:03:52 - Authenticity and Emotional Connection
01:06:09 - Curiosity as a Path to Self-Discovery
01:09:33 - The Alpha Male Myth and Its Misconceptions
01:13:15 - The Importance of Community and Connection
01:28:36 - Moving Beyond Awareness: Practical Steps for Men's Mental Health
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03:13 - The Impact of Early Experiences on Emotional Development
06:37 - Understanding Emotional Fluency and Literacy
09:13 - The Age of Emotional Disconnect in Boys
12:32 - Addressing Emotional Suppression in Young Boys
15:25 - The Role of Masculinity in Emotional Expression
18:25 - Connecting with Teenage Boys
21:15 - The Importance of Male Role Models
24:19 - Emotional Intelligence Across Genders
27:16 - The Complexity of Emotional Intelligence
30:58 - Healthy Masculinity and Emotional Presence
33:49 - Loneliness and Peer Relationships in Boys
36:42 - The Influence of Online Communities
39:55 - The Appeal of Controversial Figures like Andrew Tate
50:56 - The Influence of Masculinity in Modern Society
54:37 - Holistic Development: The Pillars of Wellbeing
56:10 - Understanding Incel Culture and Its Implications
01:00:56 - Outdated Expectations of Masculinity
01:03:52 - Authenticity and Emotional Connection
01:06:09 - Curiosity as a Path to Self-Discovery
01:09:33 - The Alpha Male Myth and Its Misconceptions
01:13:15 - The Importance of Community and Connection
01:28:36 - Moving Beyond Awareness: Practical Steps for Men's Mental Health
Hey tribe! - Can I ask you a favour? See, we're completely new to the podcasting game, and any feedback would be appreciated, positive or negative, as we're looking to improve as we go. Thanks!
You can also support us at:
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Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/triangle-theory/id1769204627
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Player FM: https://player.fm/series/triangle-theory
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